Well, this one goes to everyone who went through heartbreak at least once in their life…
Remember thinking that HE was the one? Or that SHE was the girl of your dreams and the one to be the mother of your kids… only to proven otherwise… YES I feel you…
Most girls, (like myself) tend to be very emotional when they go through a breakup… That feeling of your heart being torn into tiny bits and pieces can be unbearable (bit dramatic there I know!) Be it locking yourself up -crying your heart out eating ice-cream (tried and it only increased the calorie counter *sigh*) to drinking and finding love in people you otherwise wouldn’t even dare being more than friends with, or even constantly posting on social media (guilty as charged- until recently)… We all deal with emotional pain in different ways. If you think girls are worse, don’t get me started about guys- they rarely show emotions but if you happen to have very close guy friends you know how hard they deal with heartbreak.
The thing is, though your friends say that it is time to move on, or your parents force you to be okay, or even worse case scenario – force you to marry someone – the pain you felt will not go away until YOU make up your mind to let go of it completely… Coz’ no outsider will understand exactly how you feel. Now the mind is a funny place, loves to constantly remind you about the past (mostly at night for some weird reason), get you over thinking and start making you an emotional-wreck – So what is the solution for this? Commit suicide? Do things that will give you temporary happiness? NO, the only way to stop being an emotional wreck is to get total control of your mind, start doing things that make you happy, pay attention to your needs and start loving who you are. BE YOU- and BE HAPPY!
“And so lying underneath those stormy skies
She’d say, “oh, I know the sun must set to rise” – Coldplay
Wanted to always travel? Take up cooking lessons, lose the pounds you gained, learn to dance, tick off items in your bucket list or whatever the hell you always wanted to do- JUST DO IT! You’ve got to be your own saviour. No one can walk the path for you, you yourself must do it. Letting go and being happy is no easy task, you will have to jump your hurdles one at a time and sometimes if you’re lucky you will have friends & family who will support you- but there’s only so much they can do. How long will it take for you to be normal? Unfortunately, no one will have a definite answer to that! You may not even get to fix yourself completely – uncertainty sucks (trust me I know!) but, life must go on.
Some of us will want to be single the rest of our lives because what you had to deal with scarred you for the rest of your life and some will want to fall in love again – it’s a matter of choice and no one can blame you for your choices. If you are perfectly happy being independent, living your life without having to worry or depend on someone else to share your moments- bravo! You reached the highest level. For the rest of us, well, we still haven’t reached there yet and may always depend on another party to be there for us.
Problem occurs when it’s the latter. As the saying goes “Once bitten, twice shy..” we will create walls so high, sometimes even when the right person comes along, they might not be able to see the real you.. The thing about love is you can never have the guarantee that things will be right the 2nd time, the 3rd or even the 4th time. You just have take a leap of faith, trust and be brave enough to open yourself up to a person and believe that maybe just maybe this time you will get to be happy for the rest of your life.
“Love is giving someone the power to destroy you but, trusting them not to..”
Society is going to judge you from your past – they always do, just find a person (or let the person find you) who will look past your mistakes, understand the real you and is mature enough to tolerate your habits; both good and bad. Always remember that it can never be a one sided thing- if you want someone understanding, you’ve got to be that in return and maybe your happily ever after will come true.
NEVER stop believing in love and happiness… But also, don’t go chasing after it too much either- For,
“Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.”
and when it is the right time and if it’s meant to be, it’ll somehow fall into place – of course, a little bit of effort won’t hurt but don’t overdo it.
Whoever is reading this; I hope YOU find happiness and be blessed with true love! 🙂
The Ocean Whisperer 